On a personal note, going through the process of making a decision to move has been a very valuable experience. In the first instance I found myself procrastinating, to-ing and fro-ing between pros and cons even though in my heart I knew it was the right thing. I began making calls and keeping my eyes open for what was a realistic option and then making a commitment and not looking back or changing my mind. I told myself that it was one step at a time and to seek the help I needed and take it. The weeks and months rolled by and I continually sorted out problems as and when they arose and was pro active in keeping in touch with key people.

Once moved, I began organising  and scheduling tradesmen and official organisations as required and soon the work was underway. I am not saying it was a breeze or that at times I was well and truly fed up with it but I never lost sight of what I was trying to achieve.

I thank all those clients who graciously worked with me by having to change appointments, I am grateful for the flexibility they showed. I am delighted to have a wonderful room that I can now share with my clients.

And rest…. (until the next challenge)!

I remember hearing once that if I wasn’t nervous about doing something new then perhaps I didn’t really want it as it didn’t matter enough. Somehow at the time this gave me acceptance about feeling nervous, that it was ok and kind of proved to me that what I was doing was what I really wanted. I have learned over the years that the more I pay attention to the way I feel the more I seem to move in direction I want. I have become more aware of the way I feel and can translate it into something I understand. I listen to my inner voice rather than letting my reasoned logical head take over or even worse do what others want me to do and end up down a road I don’t want to be on. Who can relate to this one?

“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” – Jim Rohn

So three months on I am doing what I need to do, I am happy with what I have already done and the decisions I had to make in order to get where I want. By no means have I reached the finishing line, I will never reach that until my time is up. Right now, I like the view and I like the thought of new horizons, they seem welcoming and warm. I may not be able to see over the hill, however I am liking the journey and it feels good, despite those nerves!

I remember years ago hearing someone say, just because someone has a degree doesn’t automatically mean they will happy and successful. I found this a difficult concept to understand at the time as I was always in awe of those who were educated. Even during the early part of my counselling training there was a little voice in my head saying that everyone else was brighter than me therefore they were better at counselling than I was. It wasn’t until later on that I began to accept that knowledge of approaches, methods and philosophies were useless unless I could actually connect with someone in a way that was meaningful and of value.

Does that mean that I am now inventing my own approach called the keep it simple method? There is a word I like which is humanistic as it infers in its title that we are all human, which before we became anything else (a parent, a job title, a student, miserable, depressed, etc) we were and still are, simply human. We are individuals who are part of a larger society and maybe somewhere along the way we have got lost and have become confused or unhappy, or mixed up and stressed. I believe my job is to help you find your way again, back to your true authentic self. Of course I am qualified, but first, I am human…

What are your images of counselling and psychotherapy? Please share with me, I’d love to know.

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